Common Therapy Issues: 5 For Couples To Avoid
The most common issues that couples face in therapy.
What is Therapy? 20th May, 2021
It’s a common misconception that couples’ therapy is just for shattered relationships or divorcing partnerships. Couples counseling is often effective at preventing your relationship from reaching a terminal stage. Here you have the most common therapy issues.
Common Therapy Issues: You Have a Point Of View That Differs From Theirs:
Disagreements about parenting, marriage, money, lifestyle, in-laws, and other family members are common topics in couples counseling. It’s all too tempting to get caught up in your own thoughts and emotions when you’re in a relationship. The more you argue about something, the more you’ll find yourself in a vicious circle of confrontation.
Couple therapy can help in this kind of situation. The counselor serves as a moderator, assisting you in seeing all sides of the argument. They don’t give you instructions.
They simply assist you in exploring your emotions in a secure and calm environment. This helps you recognise the underlying issues that are causing your problems and hearing each other for the first time to see new paths forward.
Common Therapy Issues: Something Terrible Has Happened, and You’re Both Dealing With The Fallout:
Infidelity, death, bankruptcy, and disease are all everyday life struggles that lead couples to counsel. It would be perfect if our partners could be fully there to help us when life throws us a curveball. Challenges, on the other hand, are something to which we all respond differently.
For example, you may be an emotional person while your partner is a recluse. These discrepancies can make you feel disconnected from the person you wanted to feel closest to during times of stress.
The couple’s therapist provides a safe space in which you can freely address the issue. It can help you avoid common pitfalls that prevent people from connecting around a problem, such as judging or blaming one another.
Common Therapy Issues: A Significant Life Change Has Occurred:
Retirement, moving around the world, a midlife crisis, children leaving home, and health problems are common issues in couples’ therapy. When one person’s life changes but not the other’s, it may seem as though you’re suddenly living different lives. Even if you both notice the difference, your reactions to it will differ.
Judgments and disagreement will arise, and you can find yourself drifting apart. One partner may also blame the other for the change.
A couple’s counselor will assist you in expressing your concerns about the transition. He/she will assist you in posing good questions to yourself about what is going on. This could lead to new insights and paths forward that you wouldn’t have seen otherwise.
Common Therapy Issues: You’re Having Problems With Sex and Intimacy:
A different libido, lack of confidence, getting trapped in a routine, and a partner questioning his/her orientation are examples of sex and intimacy issues. It’s easy to conclude that something like this shouldn’t be enough to end a relationship.
However, the stress created by not discussing sex and intimacy issues can lead to other conflicts or leave one partner feeling bitter or neglected. Issues with sex and intimacy are often a symptom, not a cause. A therapist can assist you in examining the emotions that might be the root of your problems in the bedroom.
Common Therapy Issues: You Just Don’t Seem To Be Able To Connect Any Longer:
Many other issues in relationships stem from a failure to communicate. And it’s difficult to see what’s wrong when we’re on our own. If you’re having trouble talking, it’s likely because you’re caught in an energetic pattern that you can’t see.
A therapist is qualified to recognise self-defeating patterns. A therapist will assist you in changing this trend to one that brings you closer together rather than apart. We hope this helps with any common therapy issues you may be having in your relationship.
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