3 Important Relationship Challenges and The Solutions With Therapy
The most common barriers to achieving results in marriage counseling.
What is Therapy? 13th Sep, 2021
Marriage therapists can help couples facing challenges in relationships. Generally speaking, the success of the treatment depends mainly on the relationship with the therapist and commitment to the process. Prior to investing time and money though, there are some barriers that couples need to consider. Marriage counseling is different to personal therapy. Unless both parties do their best, resistance, despair, or resentment can lead to failure. The following are some potential obstacles that couples may consider before starting treatment.
1. Waiting Too Long To Participate In Couples Counseling:
Most couples wait too long to get help from a therapist. When the decision to try therapy is made, one or both parties are often at a loss. They may have decided to end the relationship. Unless both parties want to continue the relationship, and agree that the goal is to build a healthier relationship, treatment will not succeed.
How To Solve This:
Before you begin, honestly explain your intentions for therapy to your partner. Share your despair with your partner and therapist. To take full advantage of marriage counseling, both parties need to begin with the intention of improving the marriage. It is never too late to create positive changes and repair troubled relationships. Every day you postpone treatment, is another day wasted to rebuild a positive relationship with your partner. It’s best to solve the challenges in the interpersonal relationship as early as possible to avoid additional harm or resentment.
2. Unwillingness To Promise:
The reasons that prompt couples to receive therapy include communication barriers, the lack of intimacy, disagreements about parenting, or financial issues. After years or months of repeated quarrels, couples may start to weaken and grow unwilling to make promises to their partners. Unwillingness to commit is an obstacle that must be overcome before progress can be made.
How To Solve It:
If commitment is challenging, you need to be aware of its necessity in healthy relationships. Learn to listen to your partner’s needs and feelings. Practice enjoying the feeling of watching your partner being heard and understood. If you are really interested in maintaining this relationship, you can learn the art of compromise. If compromise creates obstacles, then individual treatments may be helpful before starting couples’ therapy.
3. Lack Of Trust In The Counseling:
When choosing a therapist, the main concern should be about having complete trust in the process. In the case of couples, both parties should experience this sense of trust and security. If only one person is involved in the process, it can be challenging to harvest results, therefore, if a person feels distrustful, the treatment may be unknowingly undermined before the therapist can even determine the area of concern. When treatment is generally not valued, and is not part of either partner’s belief system, it is essential to discuss and study your resistance to treatment. When one or both parties are skeptical about therapy, it has less impact.
How To Solve It:
Take a moment to choose a therapist that everyone chooses and feels safe. If you do not feel supported, discuss your feelings with your therapist during treatment. Marriage therapy is an excellent time to practice truthful communication. A well-trained therapist will use your openness as an opportunity for relationship development. If doubts about therapy are an obstacle, read about the benefits of trying therapy or ask trusted people in your life about their experiences. It is also helpful to discuss your concerns about treatment with the therapist during the pre-treatment visit.