Essential Lessons For BDSM Aftercare

Caring for your partner once the fun is over.

BDSM 14th Jul, 2021

Sexual aftercare is a common practice in BDSM. In its simplest form, the aftermath is a relaxing ritual after sex. Sexual behaviour that involves BDSM dynamics can be intense. Sometimes people are heavily tied or otherwise physically and psychologically controlled. It can be incredibly immersive, so much so that it is important to return partners to the mental space of reality. Aftercare is basically the way to control emotions and the body after BDSM. Everyone’s aftercare habits are different. The key to the aftermath ritual is to care for the physical and mental health of your partner. 

Why Practice Sexual Aftermath? 

We must do an excellent job in the aftermath to ensure that our partners can happily walk out of the beautiful psychological space of BDSM games, and return to the real world. It is essential to make partners feel cared for. 

Domination and obedience are intense during a BDSM session. Whether it’s mental or physical whipping or following a strict protocol, all these processes will take some time to stop. Sometimes, during and after sex, the negative psychological space transforms, which may not serve you the way you want. Aftercare is vital for dominant couples and submissive couples. Although people are usually very concerned about the aftercare of the obedient, it is also valuable to let the dominator relax. Here is how to practice sexual aftermath: 

  • Hugs: 

Hugs are well known to have positive benefits for your body and relationships, so naturally, it is a good form of the aftermath. Hugs can help us release the hormone oxytocin, which can reduce stress and increase intimacy. Additionally, hugging is a low-energy activity that can calm submissives who accept put-downs or shock games. 

  • Water and Snacks: 

It is very important to drink water after the scene! The benefits of staying hydrated are many, especially after physical activity. Some people also like to snack on comfort foods, so keep your closet well stocked! 

  • Take Care of Minor Injuries: 

Although you shouldn’t be seriously injured after BDSM, some people play strenuous scenes. When it comes to blood games and/or knives, the wound must be disinfected and tended to. Any bruises must be treated with ice. 

  • Sleeping Together: 

A nap can do wonders! This is a form of aftercare because sleeping next to your partner is a way to encourage intimacy. 

  • Watching Movies: 

Having the opportunity to see and get lost in films, and other things, is the best choice for the aftermath! Seeing something optimistic or interesting can give you a feeling of warmth, eliminating any possible sunshine/sub-depression. 

  • Kiss or Slow Sex: 

Sometimes, the answer is more sex! Kissing makes us feel close to our partner. Slower, more sensual sex can be used as aftercare for rough behaviour. It allows partners to reconnect with their true identity and disconnect from their dominant or submissive role. 

  • Service Behaviour: 

Performing service behaviour can be gentle and reassuring as the aftermath. It’s about things like cooking together, having your partner hug you while bringing you water and blankets, or combing each other’s hair. 

  • Affirmative Words: 

Affirm to your partner that they are loved, valuable and beautiful. If the relationship is not that serious, it is always good to praise their performance, or tell them how attractive you find them. 

  • Massage: 

There is nothing like a long massage to release tension. Play some music, dim the lights, and then take turns to massage. A massage can make you feel relaxed and cared for. It also enhances the emotional and physical connection.

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