7 Dating Rules To Remember
An easy to follow guide to better dating.
Relationships 21st Dec, 2020
In many ways the most important dating rule to remember is that there are no rules! That said, there are guidelines that could help you navigate the dating maze, enabling a clearer path toward finding a life partner instead of an elusive “perfect” one. If you’re still at the short term dating phase, it’ll also help you find ‘the one’ for the next few months.
Trust Your Instincts:
If you stop and listen to your instincts, you’ll discover they are probably correct. Sometimes they even scream at you. So take the time to tune into what they are saying, good or bad. Try to avoid, however, past experience, or expectations derived from low self confidence, take the lead. It’s your basic instincts you are tuning into here, not the voice in your head that says you don’t deserve happiness.
Do An Activity On Your First Date:
No, not the one that came to mind when you read this subheading! Go to the movies, or bowling, or watch a game if you have a sport in common. It is particularly important, if you have met this person online, to stay safe and meet somewhere public until you get to know them. An activity gives you something to talk about. It smooths out those awkward pauses that are inevitable when you’re getting to know someone new. This applies even if the person is already a friend. You are opening a new door and either one of you could get shy or nervous.
Make New Friends:
If you go into dating looking to make new friends, or get closer to a current friend, then it takes the pressure off. Although not a fete eu compli, friendships can develop into relationships. This could become the person you go paintballing with because no one else is as competitive as you. Stay open and take the time to find out.
Listen To Your Head Not Your Hormones:
At some point you will start thinking about sex. When you do, think about what you want from this new relationship. If you just want some fun, be clear about that and make sure you are both on the same page. It’s more likely to stay fun that way. Likewise, if a longer term commitment is on your mind, have the conversation with them and find out their intentions. It will give you some idea of what is going on in their head.
Remember Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder:
It is all too easy, especially with social media, to seek daily contact. Try to avoid this and let this new friendship develop naturally. You do not have to see, speak to, or message them every day. Social media stalking should also be avoided, as the result could drive a wedge between you not bring you closer together.
Listen To Advice:
Reach out to your friends and family and talk to them. See if they think this new or deepening relationship sounds as fantastic as you think it is. Although it is up to you whether or not you take their advice on board, there is no harm in listening.
Introduce Them To Your Friends:
After you have spent time getting to know each other, and you feel you are ready, then introduce your new friend/partner to your wider circle. If possible, do this at a get together that is big enough to prevent the relationship becoming the spotlight but small enough where being overwhelmed is avoided.
Follow these rules (ok, guidelines) and pressure will be taken off you and the relationship. Try dating to make new/closer friends, instead of searching for the perfect partner and see where it leads you. It could let love develop naturally, rather than forcing it, which is far more likely to last in the long term.